My post titles are lacking creativity, but it’s all I seem to be able to muster these days. After a pretty long hiatus from FB debates/discussions, I find myself sucked back in during the second Trump reign. One particularly long thread recently focused on DEI. It’s clear to me now, more clear than ever, that the hatred of DEI is largely based on a total misunderstanding of what it is. This isn’t the first time that some political party has distorted a thing to make it something different than it is, and then attacked it. “Socialism,” “critical race theory,” “welfare.” All turned into something they aren’t and attacked by the right. I honestly can’t think of examples of the left doing this, but I would bet that they exist and I’m just not sharp enough to bring them to mind.
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Two sides to a coin
Imagine this: you’re a man sitting on a bus, next to some stranger who is also a man, and a woman gets on the bus, walks toward your seats, turns to the stranger next to you and says, “I love you.” It wouldn’t be too much of a stretch to conclude two things: a) that the woman loves the man, and b) that the woman does not love you. The first can be a bit heartwarming, the second either neutral or heartbreaking. If the woman is somebody you’ve never met before, the conclusion that the woman does not love you is likely meaningless, and not anything you’d think twice about. Of course she doesn’t love you, she doesn’t know you. But, what if the woman were your wife. Now, not only is her love for the stranger next to you a betrayal, but the lack of love for you is about has hurtful as you can imagine. The point to take from this, and hold on to for what’s coming next, is that the lack of a message directed to you, while being directed to another, can be neutral or hurtful, depending on the context. Let’s adopt some shorthand for the rest of this. The situation when somebody does something nice for another (e.g., says “I love you”) and you smile because it was sweet is going to be called a “positive interpretation.” When somebody does something nice for another and you feel like you deserved something nice too, and you focus on the fact that something wasn’t done for you, we’ll call that a “negative interpretation.” Remember that jargon and let’s think about some issues in society and let’s see where this changes how we feel when we hear others say things, and how we might want to think about things we say ourselves.
Hitting Bregma 